When we meet a soulmate, we feel such intense love that we tend to believe the relationship is supposed to last forever; that it is destined to be. This is part true. Yes, the relationship is definitely destined to be -- there are no doubts about that. But not all soulmate relationships are supposed to last forever. Sometimes our soulmates come and stay for just long enough to teach us what we needed to learn or to heal the places within us that needed healing or to awaken the places within us that they agreed to awaken (or for us to help awaken or help heal places within them).
And, sometimes our soulmates come into our lives to prepare us for the one true love we've been dreaming about and working toward -- preparing for -- our whole lives.
Unfortunately, when the relationship ends most people will shame themselves for continuing to long for this person and continuing to love the person who did [blank] to them or made them feel [blank] way. Most people will also shame and judge the other person, chase them, and/or try to replace them with some other escape mechanism (a drink, another person, a cigarette, a joint, etc) -- rather than doing the inner work that was inspired by this person’s presence in their lives.
If this is you, fear not. You’re not alone. There are a ton of people out there just like you and what I’d like to do in this post is simply reassure you that you can still stay connected to the love even if the soulmate has departed. In fact, doing so could be the most loving and compassionate thing you could do for yourself and your soulmate.
In this video below I talk about my own journey with this concept of staying connected to the love and I talk about the ways you can continue to heal -- in the ways you were intended to -- even if this soulmate has departed. In fact, if you stay connected and committed to the love and your growth you will invite in the kind of love that most only dream of. You just need to be open to seeing it when it arrives (because sometimes our dreams come in packages we don’t always recognize).
Wherever you hurt the most, you have the greatest opportunity to grow the most.
In this talk, I also take you through a strategy that will help to lessen some of the pressure and some of the intensity of the longing/pain.
And, as always, I hope this helps.
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Deeply in love with love,
Christina Renée Joubert is founder and CEO of Teaching the World to Love™; author of When Soulmates Unite – Learning to Love Ourselves from the People Who Can Hurt Us the Most; and a proud mommy to a beautiful little boy.
Christina has dedicated her life to making accessible to all people the knowledge, wisdom, tools, and strategies that can help them reframe their past, transform their present, and change the trajectory of their relationships and lives - now and for generations to come. Donation-based personal growth for all. #itstime